A comprehensive guide for concerned parents

Adolescence is a time of exploration, growth, and, sometimes, risky decisions. As parents, we want to protect our children from dangers that could affect their well-being—such as drug use. However, difficult questions often arise: “How do I know if my child is using drugs? What can I do to prevent it? How do I support them if it’s already happening?” These concerns are valid and deserve to be addressed with empathy and concrete resources.

The impact of migration on youth and their families

The migration context adds layers of complexity to the experiences of young people. Some are migrants themselves who have left their homeland, friends, and family behind, while others are born into immigrant families and grow up between two cultures. This can bring specific challenges, such as:

• Migratory grief: Losses related to separation from loved ones, environmental changes, and the need to adapt to new customs. These experiences may cause sadness, anxiety, or feelings of disconnection.
• Cultural clash: Youth growing up between two cultures may feel torn between family expectations and the norms of their surroundings, which can lead to additional pressure and confusion.
• Language and resource barriers: Both parents and children may struggle to communicate or access support due to language or financial limitations.
• Discrimination and exclusion: Experiencing rejection or racism can undermine self-esteem and increase vulnerability to mental health problems and substance use.

Prevention starts at home

Preventing drug use isn’t a task that can be left solely to schools, communities, or external groups. Parents play an essential role, starting with creating a home environment based on trust, respect, and open communication. Talking to your kids about drugs may feel uncomfortable, but it’s necessary. Here are some steps to do it effectively:

• Encourage open communication: 

Make sure your children feel heard and understood. Avoid lecturing — instead, foster natural conversations. Ask how they’re feeling, how school is going, or their opinion on topics in the news, and listen closely.

• Talk about the risks of drug use: 

Don’t try to scare them — educate them. Explain how substance use can affect their body, mind, and future. Be honest and clear, using language appropriate for their age and understanding.

• Set clear boundaries: 

Teens need to know what is expected of them. Establish household rules about substance use and the consequences of breaking them. But remember: rules should be accompanied by love and support, not authoritarian control — reward positive behavior, too.

• Strengthen your child’s self-esteem: 

Youth who are confident and have a strong sense of identity are less likely to engage in drug use. Praise their achievements, help them develop skills, and encourage healthy relationships.

Warning signs parents should watch for

While it may be difficult to accept that your child may be using drugs, it’s important to pay attention to changes in their behavior, appearance, and habits. Warning signs may include:

• Changes in physical appearance: Red or glassy eyes, sudden weight loss, or unusual smells on clothing or breath.
• Odd or evasive behavior: Frequent lying, avoiding conversations, aggressive behavior or irritability.
• School performance drop: Lack of interest in activities they used to enjoy, frequent absences, or low grades.
• Emotional issues: Sadness, anxiety, low motivation, or social isolation.

These signs don’t always indicate drug use—but they are indicators that something may be going on.

What to do if you suspect your child is using drugs

Discovering your child might be using drugs can bring a flood of emotions: fear, guilt, anger, sadness. These feelings are normal, but it’s crucial to manage them calmly to provide the support they need. Key steps include:

1. Don’t react impulsively:
   Even if you’re frustrated, avoid yelling, blaming, or punishing right away. These reactions may drive your child away and hinder communication.
2. Seek an honest conversation:
   Talk with your child in a calm moment, expressing your concerns from a place of love and genuine care. For example, instead of accusing, you could say: “I’ve noticed some changes in you and I’m worried. Is there something you’d like to talk about?”
3. Seek professional help:
   If you confirm or suspect drug use, consult a therapist or counselor. At Ayúdate, we have culturally competent professionals who can guide you and your family through the process.
4. Reinforce family bonds:
   Doing meaningful activities together can help rebuild trust and strengthen emotional connection. These moments can be key to redirecting your child’s focus toward positive interests.
5. Strengthen the connection with activities that allow your child to connect with their cultural roots while also exploring new, positive experiences in their current environment.

Support is key: how to help your child

Supporting a child who is struggling with drug use doesn’t mean excusing their behavior—it means being present while they seek help. As a parent, you can be their greatest source of strength and stability:

• Be patient: Change doesn’t happen overnight. There will be ups and downs, but your consistency can make a big difference.
• Get involved in the recovery process: Join family therapy sessions or support groups. These can give you tools to better understand what’s happening and how to face it together.
• Focus on the positive: Celebrate every step forward, no matter how small. Remind them that their efforts matter.
• Celebrate their bicultural identity: Encourage experiences that allow them to explore and value both their heritage and their current surroundings.

At Ayúdate, we understand the challenges parents face in trying to protect their children in a world full of risks. Our mission is to provide accessible mental health resources and services to Hispanic families. If you need professional guidance or tools to navigate this situation, we are here for you.

Remember, you are not alone on this path. Prevention, education, and professional support can make a difference in your child’s life — and in your family’s health and well-being.